Saturday, December 3, 2011

Myths and Benefits of Divorce Recovery

With divorce being as common as it is I’m sure you’ve heard a friend you care about say something that just doesn’t seem right to you regarding their divorce or break-up. The statements you hear or the things they do while they’re in the process of divorce or the loss of a significant relationship concerns you.  

You wonder what to say to them or to politely suggest to them a resource that would really help them and their kids? What is a resource that you could suggest that will not only practically help them now, but for the rest of their lives?

Over the years I have been constantly asked in radio, TV and magazine interviews and from many of the thousands who have attended the Starting Over Workshops what are the myths and benefits of divorce recovery. So, because this question is constantly being asked I thought it would be helpful to share this again.

Myths about Divorce Recovery:
- That you shouldn't be experiencing the wide range of emotions that you do, that your feelings are abnormal.
- That there is a quick fix to all the issues of divorce.
- That another relationship is the answer to your pain and disappointment.
- That another relationship can solve your loneliness.
- That you are exempt from the pain and disappointment of a broken relationship.
- That you can solve your own issues with your own intellect and hard work.
- That you don't need help, that you’re self sufficient, that you can do it all by yourself.

Benefits of The Starting Over Workshop DVDS and CDs:
- The most cost effective tool for divorce recovery, giving you hope and helping you through the process.
- Facilitated by a seasoned professional who has actually been divorced rather than a theoretician who has no real life personal experience with divorce.
- Learn about yourself and how others process divorce more quickly and effectively than other more expensive long term therapy sessions.
- Unpack the depth and impact of divorce upon you and your children.
- Learn practical skills to cope and manage your former (ex) relationships now and in the   future.
- Become more aware of how to process the divorce with your children.
- Think more wisely about you and your children's future.
- Learn to accept the reality of your divorce and move on with real life practical skills.
- Learn how to make better decisions in all your relationships now and in the future.
- Realize that no one person is going to make you happy and that it’s your own responsibility to choose happiness.
- Learn about the importance of forgiveness and its role in your recovery through divorce.
- Pain is inevitable, misery is an option.
- Realize you are not alone.

Now, if you or someone you know could benefit from this please send this to them and a link to the Recovery After Divorce website at http://www.recoveryafterdivorce.com/ For video samples see http://www.recoveryafterdivorce.com/MarkSkalbergmedia.html

For Hope, Healing and Life,

Mark